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so far the attendees include:

Ellen Degeneres
Gandhi
Maya Angelou
Adele
Jack Johnson
The Dalai Lama
Paul Walker (just for some eye candy)
Jackie Kennedy
Anjelah Johnson

Being Average.

I think I've just discovered something. People actually don't want to know about how happy you are. They don't want to hear you gloat, brag, or light up about how something or someone that makes you so elated. They might once or twice but in general I think it brings out a feeling of "oh shut up already" so if you share your happiness, you must censor and limit it. which blows.
So I always knew people dont want to hear about your troubles. they dont want to know whats wrong, even if they ask. they tire of hearing your problems because they have enough problems of their own. I have come to the conclusion that the average person, the average friend, only wants to hear your life is average good and average bad. if its awful, please keep to yourself. if its amazing, don't rub it in.

The only people who care when you're at your highs and your lows are your real friends.
The average friend only wants to hear you are just that- average.

Cynical much? maybe.
but i think i am on to something here.

The beginning is the best...

Benjamin Button Inspirational Speech

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My She-roe: Maya Angelou

Maybe when you look at a page with massive amounts of quotes, it kind of makes each quote a little bit less special, and its harder to appreciate the depth of a real great quote when it is right beside another great one. But I could never pick a favorite with these... I have always loved so many Maya Angelou quotes (and poems etc). But at this juncture of my life every single word I read speaks so loudly to me and fills me with a strong sense of agreement and inspiration. I know some people like to go through life saying that they have "no regrets" and usually I try to take the lesson out of my mistakes to not look at them as regrets. But this mistake, I do regret: When Maya Angelou was at Chapman University in the spring of 2007, I didn't ditch my class to hear her speak. (Way to be responsible at the wrong time) And I regret that, so much. I should have gone to listen to her speak, I will always regret not going. So that has to go on my bucket list for me to cross off, as soon as possible.



Here is a collection of my favorites saying by Maya Angelou. Some you have probably heard, others maybe not.


"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."


"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them."


"You can't use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have."


"Life loves the liver of it."


"To be left alone on the tightrope of youthful unknowing is to experience the excruciating beauty of full freedom and the threat of eternal indecision"


"First best is falling in love. Second best is being in love. Least best is falling out of love. But any of it is better than never having been in love. "


"A woman who is convinced that she deserves to accept only the best challenges herself to give the best. Then she is living phenomenally"


"Some people cannot see a good thing when it is right here, right now. Others can sense a good thing coming when it is days, months, or miles away."


"Let's tell the truth to people. When people ask, 'How are you?' have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don't want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you."


"To those who have given up on love: I say, "Trust life a little bit."


"Success is loving life and daring to live it.


"All great achievements require time."


"My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return."


"Most people don't grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging."


"I don't trust anyone who doesn't laugh."


"Be present in all things and thankful for all things"


"Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope"


"Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman"


"The desire to reach for the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise."


"I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one."


"Life is pure adventure, and the sooner we realize that, the quicker we will be able to treat life as art."


"I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life's a bitch. You've got to go out and kick ass."


"You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you."


"My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style" 

"Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it."


"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."


— Maya Angelou

besos

xoxo

Dalai Lama words of wisdom

Here are some of my favorite quotes from his holiness, the 14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso. (I still wish I could have seen him speak at USC last week!)



Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.



Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.


Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.


My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.


There is a saying in Tibetan, "Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength."


No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.


Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day.


Self-discipline, although difficult, and not always easy while combating negative emotions, should be a defensive measure.


It is necessary to help others, not only in our prayers, but in our daily lives. If we find we cannot help others, the least we can do is to desist from harming them.


Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent.


Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.


If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then also there is no need to worry.


The important thing is to realize the positive side and try to increase that; realize the negative side and try to reduce. That's the way.


Great love and great achievements involve great risk.


People should never sit alone for too long when they're crying.


Human happiness and human satisfaction must ultimately come from within oneself... Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.


To a large extent, whether you suffer depends on how you respond to a given situation.

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I think the writers at Cosmopolitain are idiots. But this is kind of funny.

Most Hated Baby Names!? I don't know about that.

Here's the full list (with notes from Live Science) ... brace yourself:
Here is the link to the page

Girls

Nevaeh ("heaven" spelled backward and one of the most divisive names around, according to Wattenberg)


Destiny (people dislike names that confer a virtue onto a child, Wattenberg said -- and many associated this name with exotic dancers)


Madison


Mackenzie


McKenna


Addison (an example of a masculine named turned feminine, which many people dislike, Wattenberg said)


Gertrude (people said this name is "ugly")


Kaitlyn (for its "made-up" spelling)


Makayla


Bertha (author's note: duh!)



Boys

Jayden


Brayden


Aiden


Kaden (these rhyming names struck many as overdone, Wattenberg reported)


Hunter (too much like a last name or "too violent")


Hayden


Bentley (people dislike brand-name names, Wattenberg found, calling them "trashy")


Tristan


Michael (too boring, according to some)


Jackson


I'm surprised to see some of them there -- especially Michael, and Kaitlyn doesn't seem that strangely spelled to me. But some of them, yeah ... "Bentley," really?


Still, if you love a name, it's your baby, and you get to decide. Don't let the haters color your opinion of a name you love ... just know that your child may be among those who hate it too.


What do you think of the baby names on this most hated list? Are your children's names on it? Do you care? "


***Okay so here's my two cents:
I like Tristan. Whats wrong with Tristan?
And I like Michael too, even if its not creative, so what?!?!
Jackson- Now... does that mean just that spelling or is JAXON also bad?? Sorry Cassidy, these people are wrong, everyone is naming their kid Jackson/Jaxon so its not a hated name!
Bertha and Gertrude- that's a joke right?? Nobody names their baby that
Aiden is popular, not hated. but I do agree everyone tries to rhyme them, hayden, jayden... not still, not the most hated baby names! Pssh
KAITLYN? I'm sorry don't listen to them.
And what is wrong with Makalya?? Sorry Kimberly, don't listen to them either.
I will say I dont really like the Navaeh but it is cool that its heaven backwards... I don't know though.
 
This is a pretty bad list. Maybe I should make my own. Except who would make a list of the most hated names? that is just straight up mean. There are too many names on here of people that I like, some of them being babies!
 
Maybe we should all just name all the babies "Ladan. " Yeah, that has a nice ring to it.

Poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye, 1932

         

Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am in a thousand winds that blow,

I am the softly falling snow.

I am the gentle showers of rain,

I am the fields of ripening grain.

I am in the morning hush,

I am in the graceful rush

Of beautiful birds in circling flight,

I am the starshine of the night.

I am in the flowers that bloom,

I am in a quiet room.

I am in the birds that sing,

I am in each lovely thing.

Do not stand at my grave bereft

I am not there. I have not left.

I.believe.in.a.thing.called.love

I believe in signs, whether from god, the universe or wherever they originate.

I believe in wearing lingerie, even when you are alone.

I believe in forgiveness.

I believe in speaking your mind.

I believe the most important relationship in your life is the one with yourself.

I believe that giving is far more fulfilling that receiving.

I believe that a life free of passion will never be complete.

I believe in second chances. And sometimes thirds...

I believe that distance does not make or break a friendship.

I believe that I can have everything I want in life. With hard work and patience.

I believe everyone is more beautiful when they are smiling.

I believe in putting family first. 

I believe in the saying "this too shall pass" no matter what the situation may be.

I believe you should do things that scare you, as often as possible.

I believe your age is as old as you feel. 

I believe in going without a map, because sometimes finding your way is fun. 

Albert Einstein

Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

Advice from Somewhere

ONE.

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE.

Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.

FIVE.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

SIX.

Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN.

Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT.

Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE.

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.

In disagreements, fight fairly. Please No name calling.

ELEVEN.

Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE.

Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

FOURTEEN.

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN.

Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN.

Remember the three R's:
Respect for self;
Respect for others;
Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY-ONE.

Spend some time alone.

Superhero wisdom

People will adore and love you for all the things you've done for them, but will hate you for a single mistake, that's the irony of life--Spiderman

Sail on

It is not good to hate all roses because you got pricked by one thorn;
to lose faith in prayers because one wasn’t answered;
to give up on your efforts because one of them failed;
to stop believing in love because someone didn’t love you back;
to throw away all your chances to be happy because you didn’t succeed on the first attempt.

Life isn’t about giving up but learning how to sail on.

Know Pain, Know Gain.

Hurt is a funny thing.

Even though it makes you feel weak inside,

it actually makes you stronger.

J.K. Rowling Quote

"Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life." - J. K. Rowling

My Intention

Always choose to heal, not to hurt;

to forgive, not to despise;

to persevere, not to quit;

to smile, not to frown;

and to love, not to hate.

At the end of life , what really matters is not what we bought but what we BUILT;

not what we got but what we shared;

not our competence but our character;

and not our success, but our significance.

Live a life that matters.

Live a happy life that cares.

Kindness

To be kind is more important than to be right. Sometimes what a person needs is not a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens.

Logic

In a crowd a man cracked a joke. The people laughed hard.

After a moment he cracked the same joke again & a little less people laughed this time.

He cracked the same joke again & very few laughed this time.

When there was no laughter in the crowd, he smiled & said,

"when you can't laugh on the same joke again & again then why do you keep crying over the same thing over & over again?"

Tell them

The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they're alive. -- Optimus Prime

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON:
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed
They may seem like a godsend, and they are
They are there for the reason you need them to be
Then without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to and end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, and their work is done.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON :
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done
They usually give you an unbelieveable amount of joy
Believe it is real, but only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

Today, thank the person who in one way or another have been a part of your life. Even if a small way you can make them feel that you are indeed thankful for their presence, as well as the beautiful moments they have given- no matter if they are your reason, season, or your lifetime.